By Tochukwu Ibe
A breakup is unarguably always really hurtful but how it’s handled is very important. A lot of people tend to make a lot of mistakes after a breakup and that is why this article is a must read. It will guide us on things to do after a break up.
LET YOUR EMOTIONS OUT
A breakup is always hurtful so it’s never a good idea to bottle up the hurt after a breakup. Let it out, all the emotions, but don’t hurt others while you’re letting your emotions out.
DO THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY
After a breakup, you might want to forget all about your ex, at least for the time. Do things that make you happy, things you love. It will also help with reducing the pain.
ERASE PAINFUL TRACES
Forgetting an ex won’t be easy but there are things to help with that. Delete all traces of your ex, the number, pictures if you have too, voice notes too. It’ll help when you don’t have to see your ex’s face all the time in your picture gallery. The rule of every relationship is never ever being clingy. You have to learn to let go. I know it’s not easy. Letting go is actually the most crucial and the most difficult phase of every relationship. There are just too many memories and forgetting these memories feels like impossibility. Well, who wouldn’t find it hard to let go? You have invested so much time, money effort and tears to make the relationship work out only to lose it in just a moment. Of course it’s hard to let go! Who am I kidding? However, you also have to think of yourself honey. You ought to respect and value yourself more than anyone and being clingy indicates that yourself value is way below the line. Do not cling to someone who doesn’t see your true value. It’s just not going to work.
A lot of people, after a breakup start ruminating on the “what ifs. It doesn’t count anymore after a breakup, those “what ifs” only matter if you’re still in the relationship. Drop the speculations.
Rushing into another relationship isn’t a good option; you might end up being the butt of it again. Your ex might still want to contact you even after breakup. If this happens, it will certainly make it harder for you to forget him. Be respectful but mindful of your needs. You can change your number, and delete his number from your contact list. If you memorized his number, you will really have to discipline yourself and do your best not to contact him.
Try to memorize other important phone numbers. Keep busy so you won’t even have time to think of contacting him. In time, you’ll be surprised that you don’t remember his phone number anymore.
Unfollow him or block him on all your social media accounts, and delete all your old messages and emails so you don’t spend any time going through them. Make a new email address to make it even more effective. The urge to contact him will reduce little by little until you don’t remember him at all.
Tochukwu Ibe Is a Christian Blogger, a footballer, and a student who loves to share Christian articles. On his blog, you will find proven articles on success, Christian parenting, relationship, dating, and Christian living. He is the founder of DailyGospelVibe Christian blog. At eighteen he became a school Sunday teacher at his local church with a great teaching ability. His spirit-inspired and practicable teachings have transformed thousands of Christian lives around the world.