By Daniel Dela Dunoo “Positive and negative are directions that lead to different outcomes. Which direction do you choose?” –Remez Sasson Positive thinking is obviously not a magic wand bringing closure to all your struggles and troubles. Positive thinking isn`t some kind of miracle cure for all your frailties and inadequacies. But what I can tell […]
Most people have an insecurity about saying, "No" to people and their requests. We do not want to let people down, or we do not want people think badly of us; which is another way to say we are people pleasers.
God tells us in Proverbs 4:23 to guard our hearts above everything else, because it determines the course of our lives. He makes it very plain that when....
Authenticity is the opposite of shame. It reveals our humanity and allows us to connect with others. Shame creates most all codependency symptoms including hiding who we are, sacrificing our needs, and saying yes when we rather not - all to be accepted by someone else.
Society has a general tendency to consider different kinds of substance abuse as addiction, while ignoring certain behavior patterns that are equally addictive. Food, shopping, gambling, work, or sex can turn to behavior addictions and create problems that are just as destructive as substance abuse.
There are plenty of examples all over the web of rage. People who seem to have lost their minds, their common sense, their rational thinking and all logic. It’s like watching a child throw an outrageous temper-tantrum but sadly these are supposed to be adults!
Being unmotivated and uninspired is, unfortunately, a very easy pattern to fall into and can also be a harmful way of living. You begin to lie to yourself, make plans but never follow through. You make resolutions but then repeat the same habits.
We never know when the moment of death will come. Don't leave your family, friends and loved ones wondering about your last wishes. Have you been putting off writing your last will and testament? Making those unthinkable end-of life plans?
Lord, thank You that You have set Your affection on me, loved me and chosen me. Help me today to fear You, to walk in all Your ways, to love You and to serve You with all my heart and all my soul.
An eagle can see another eagle as much as three miles away. You need to see your goal so clearly. You have to know what it is, you need to see it, smell it, taste it. You need to get all five of your senses involved.
Wealth gotten by dishonesty will diminish, like a fleeting vapor it will disappear leaving him with nothing. This is the story of many who are rich today and tomorrow they are poor.
The sting of rejection paralyzes some people, preventing them from ever moving beyond the offense and forward into the future. Granted, there are those people who use rejection as weaponry and are fully aware that their actions are injurious.
Are we doing too much? Are there some aspects of our life that are placing us under pressure unnecessarily? Are there some things that we can quit or that can be put off until next year? Frantic, stressful lifestyles can cause insomnia or make it worse.
A mindset is more powerful than any circumstances which may affect your condition or status or position, and any circumstances which may cause momentary afflictions or pains, and even suffering.
Boundaries are becoming more and more important in this age of constant messages. Productivity is becoming secondary to information, we are being "friended" by people in countries far and wide, our families are being scattered in this global economy and we are just bombarded on a daily basis with do this or get that.
When Satan catches a victim in his sinful web he allows them to struggle to free themselves until they are weary and weak. He then moves in to bind them with more steel cords of sin. They don't feel alarmed when one cord binds them, they could break free if they chose.
What excuses have you allowed to keep you from living your vision? Have you told yourself that you are not smart enough to get the promotion, you do not deserve to live a better life, you are not articulate enough to teach, or you will never make enough money to live debt free?
Loneliness is no respecter of persons. Young or old, literate or illiterate, rich or poor, anyone can be affected by loneliness. David Jeremiah called it the "Disease of the Decade." Many years ago Thoreau said, "A city is a place where hundreds of lonely people live together."
It's normal and natural to resent certain experiences; those that take us far outside the control we never would surrender. Enter the grief experience. It's why our first cataclysmic grief experience teaches us so much.
Knowing what is important to your loved ones will allow you to find better ways to make their Christmas special without worrying about your bank account and credit cards.
Healing from unresolved grief and any trauma related stress starts when we acknowledge the loss and accept the loss. Part of acceptance means letting go. Share your story with someone who you can trust, but then take it to God. Tell God exactly how you feel. Ask God to bring healing to your unresolved grief, and help with moving on with a new life. You are not betraying your loved one if you move on with your life, and it does not mean that you do not love them.
When I was in my teen years I used to be very shy to meet new people, was an introvert and always would draw a line for myself and would not like others to cross it and disturb my privacy. If some one would say and do something that had crossed that invisible line of self-privacy, then I would be angry and would not speak to them. Immediately I would start to build a wall around me for this person so that he would not dare to cross that wall the next time. This would be my lifestyle and as a result I would develop a lot of grudges towards many people in my heart without showing it on the outside.
As much as the child struggles to deny, minimize, bargain with and co-exist with the abuse, the impact of chronic trauma seeps into the deep recesses of the psyche and in the body.
The problem with flirting is that what often times starts out as something fun to do can lead you down a slithering road toward an affair and possibly a break-up. It has happened to people in the past and will happen to folks in the future.
Faith is the currency of God’s kingdom. It brought the power of God to work our salvation at the new birth (Ephesians 2:8). Without our faith, God would not have saved us ...
The bible encourages us thus, to trust in the Lord with all our heart and lean not on our own understanding (Pr 3:5) and that we should acknowledge Him in all our ways so He can direct our paths (Pr 3:6).
Seeds - both spiritual and natural - are living food! They contain life within them that will be released under the right conditions.
As new creations in Jesus Christ we are more than just the titles we wear in the natural realm. But unfortunately most people identify themselves more with the natural titles, than with the supernatural ones they were given on the day they said yes to a relationship with Jesus Christ.
The drama that often accompanies conflict is what gives conflict its bad name. Most of us veer away from screaming matches, stand offs and personal attacks.
God has endowed human beings with a gamut of emotions - to feel, to cry, to be happy or sad or angry. Crying is a healthy response to some of life's problems.