If your husband is not loving you as Christ loves the church and is increasingly being abusive toward you, then he has become your enemy. He has set himself up as an adversary against you. In the Hebrew language, adversary is translated as Satan. Yes, your abusive pastor-husband has made himself a Satan in your life.
When a mother has this protective love for her son she becomes fiercely protective of his life, crippling his emotional growth and tying him to her apron strings as 'Momma's Boy.' This tendency has been documented even from Biblical times in the story of Rebekah, who encouraged her favorite son Jacob to steal his brother's blessing through impersonation.
I have wrestled with poor body image issues for as long as I can remember. My first memory of my body image was when I was about 6 or 7 and an aunt said to me, "If you keep eating that way you are going to be as big as a house."
To the outside world, her husband often appears charming, a hard worker, dedicated to his family. But his desperation to look that way is so highly important to him that he carefully prunes the image in public saving his deep-seated anger for those behind closed doors. His accusations are unreasonable and unfair always directing attention away from himself.
Some will battle their depression with exercise, some with hobbies, some with recreation, and some with television. Some are satisfied and believe this to be the answer, but there will always be another episode of despair without the relationship of Jesus Christ. At least, this is what I've found over my lifetime.
By M. Marsh “The leprous person who has the disease shall wear torn clothes and let the hair of his head hang loose, and he shall cover his upper lip and cry out, ‘Unclean, unclean.’ He shall remain unclean as long as he has the disease. He is unclean. He shall live alone. His dwelling […]
I thought to myself they were probably just as apprehensive as I was, maybe more so because they don't live around all these people. So when my ex-husband and his family walked into the restaurant, I gave them a minute to get their bearings and approached my ex-husband.
Women suffer in silence for various reasons. They may be ashamed or embarrassed to let the world know that they are being violated. Wrong social attitudes especially in eastern countries are imbibed from childhood. In a survey conducted by the International Institute of Population Studies in India, 54% of women thought it was alright for women to be beaten by their husbands. 51% of men thought so too.
Think about the reason you are trying to be in control. Because there is so much going on in your life. How silly of us is it to want to, and try to, be more in control during these craziest of times? As if we don't have enough to do by simply trying to keep our heads on straight and get from one day to the next.
We also know that finding time for prayer can be a challenge. We make excuses. We get caught up in caring for our children and all the responsibilities of our day, leaving prayer a distant thought.
If you want to make prayer a priority but cannot seem to find the time, here are some ideas that may help your find time to pray
If you catch yourself falling into gossip - STOP!! If you don't pass on the gossip there is no where for it to go. When you are faced with a statement that may be gossip, check out the facts. Let the gossip end with you and remember the Golden Rule: "if you don't want people to gossip about you, then don't participate in gossip.
Women are made in such a way that once your relationship with God is intact you have the strength, ability to do so many things at the same time and still be at your best without pressure.
When you seek God's wisdom, knowledge and understanding, everyday will come and pass and you will be smiling and laughing throughout the day, even though you would have done a lot of things during the day.
I truly believe it begins with each individual and it is a skill that can be taught. It is like a muscle, that if worked on properly can be built to be strong. It starts with being kind to yourself... loving who you are.
We live in pride. Our attempts to help our hurting brethren are often based upon a sense of personal satisfaction rather than the need to alleviate the emotional struggles of our friends. Rather than address an emotional sickness with sound doctrine, we seek to come on as a wise and gentle friend.
My prayer for you my dear beloved is one of deep desire and fervency. I pray for you in the purest of heart that you will come into the fullness of who you are created to be. I pray for you as my husband, my head, my lord and my man. I pray that you will know the depth and the magnitude of the love that God has for you, then only can you be filled with the unconditional love in which only He can give. I pray that you will love yourself because Jesus died to prove that you are worth it. That you never doubt who you are in Christ, nor waver of the marvelous work that you were created to be.
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We had all begged, prayed, complained, reported, and fought, just to get him to stop beating her. I was tired of seeing the black eye, the swollen face, and the bruised arms, and hearing about the constant headaches. It was so bad that I had to tell him that one day he would do something really bad to his wife and end up behind bars. Little did I know that the day in question was fast approaching.
May is a very special month for me. Mothers are honored on Mother’s Day, and I celebrate my birthday on the first day of the month--that should answer any questions about how I got my name. I want to seize this opportunity to wish all mothers a very happy Mother’s Day and congratulate them on the difficult but rewarding role of raising children. For those single men raising children in place of their mother, all I can say is you are blessed. Keep up the good work.
Award winning Gospel singer and songwriter, Kirk Franklin confessed to being addicted to pornography many years ago. It was a shock to both the Christian and secular communities because most people believe that Christians are immune to falling into sins which have such drastic consequences. For this reason, I'm sure many Christian women wonder if their husbands could become prey to the same monster that threatened to destroy Kirk Franklin's marriage.
When I posted this image from Pinterest's “quotes” board to my Facebook page, I got responses like, “So true,” “Forget the working full-time part!” and “Hey! I think I'm being taking advantage of.” It got a ton of “likes” and was shared numerous times. And I'm certain it's because most women can relate to being pulled in so many different directions that giving our families the option to choose the top two things they can't live without doesn't seem like such a bad idea.
It was not out of unbelief that Suellen Roberts reacted when she felt a divine call to launch a TV program, though that might have been understandable. After all, her experience was light years away—in retailing and public relations. She had spent four years as an executive buyer and galleria manager for Gucci in New York City, where Aldo Gucci exhibited his private art collection. Roberts oversaw pre-ball parties, hosted visiting heads of state and celebrities, gave an art tour, and more.
It’s the season of chocolates and heart-shaped everything … and loneliness and ache and isolation and the nagging question that plagues us in this fallen world: “Am I loved?” God loves you. His love for you is rooted in creation and redemption. Hold on…I know you don’t want to hear trite clichés. But sister, bear with me for a few minutes.
If it were in your power to abolish pain, would you do it? Repeatedly I’ve contemplated this question. Life is hard. You turn the key then close the door behind you, drop your bags on the floor. You reach for the light, but there’s darkness deep inside and you can’t take it anymore. ‘Cause sometimes living takes the life out of you and sometimes living is all you can do. Life is hard; the world is cold.
When they found Rosa she was unconscious and barely breathing. She had stab wounds in her back, she had been raped and beaten, and a jagged piece of wood had been shoved into her vagina. Official reports said the 35-year-old single mother, who had been studying to finish high school, had been impaled.
In life, things happen—both good and bad. That’s just how life is. We all desire good things, of course, but unfortunately, bad things are inevitable. Just when things are going well, it often seems that something happens that steals the life we know, robs us of our joy, and strips us of hope. When these types of negative disruptions take place, it stops us in our tracks, oftentimes draining us of the ability to live life with joy and happiness--the way Jesus intended. It can cause us to disconnect from life.
Just about every little girl has played house with her baby dolls pretending to be a mom. It is a dream to grow up and experience the love of a child. I distinctly remember the wonderful relationship I had with my mom growing up and even to this day. My mom taught her girls and even her only son the importance of having a good, God-fearing mom. I guess it was always in the back of my mind that I would emulate her one day and share with my children all that I learned from her.
That is more important? Should a Christian woman go to college to become a career woman or should she learn all she can about how to be a good helpmeet to her husband and stay happily married for life? I see much confusion and conditioning in the mainstream Christian culture of today. When career and money become more important than commitment and love many Christian people are being deceived.
For Debra Peek-Haynes, First Lady and wife of Dr. Frederick D. Haynes III, senior pastor of Dallas megachurch Friendship West Baptist, ministry is a journey that started in her mother’s womb. She was born into a pastor’s home in New Jersey. While her father led the church, her mother was both first lady and a social worker. “I grew up in a home that was about ministry and aspiring to do the things you felt led to do,” she explains.
I am the first lady and my husband is the pastor of the church we attend. We have been married for 15 years. Recently, my mind pushed me to do something that I normally would not do. Because of the reckless spending habits of my husband over the years, I secretly opened a savings account in my name that he is unaware of. We still operate the joint account together, but I am scared of waking up one morning with nothing to fall back on. Is my action wise or foolish?
Dr. Manita Fadele loved medicine and she loved children. But God had another call on her life: pastor’s wife. Manita Fadele never planned on being a pastor’s wife. Her husband James worked as an engineer for Ford, and she had a successful private pediatric practice in suburban Detroit.