Understanding the responsibility and living it are two separate and specific steps men must act upon. In fact, God places a call on each man to be the patriarch of his family by providing, protecting (warrior), and loving his family well. Many men stumble their way through as family leaders because understanding the role of husband, father, and leader is learned behavior and must be taught by a father or mentor.
While there are many possible reasons why any man would cheat, I submit to you that there is one primary reason that may surprise you ...
After everything Jezebel did, God actually held Ahab responsible. Jezebel is mentioned only as a secondary figure and gets no mention at all in the books of the Chronicles.
Shortly thereafter, reconciliation came between her and her birth father. I've met him--and his wife--the day I officiated my daughter’s wedding, at her graduation, at her kids' birthday parties (my grandchildren). I've prayed for both the father and his wife and have forgiven him.
We're still dads even after our kids become moms or dads themselves. No, they don't want us to try to run their lives (and neither does God, by the way). But they do still need our maturing love.
Let's face it, men, we generally need a lot of help with relationships. We often want to just fix things and get on with it. That’s why you'll hear silly advice like “give her flowers,” “buy her candy,” “say you're sorry,” or “pray about it.” None of these suggestions are bad in and of themselves. But if you’re just trying to fix things, these gestures are empty, and she doesn’t want them.
By Louis Verges But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” Think about the question, Adam, where are you? (Notice that God did not call out to the woman.) Did God ask this question because He didn’t know where Adam was? No, the reason He asked the question was because He wanted […]
The Grand Canyon didn’t used to be a canyon. That’s when you say, “Uh, what does that have to do with pornography?” Have you ever been to the Grand Canyon? As you hike along the red rim of one of the natural world’s seven wonders, peer down into the depths. Don’t get too close, just look. Can you see it? That teeny, tiny blue ribbon? That’s the Colorado River.
"My husband won't lead the family in bible study or prayer. He won't even discipline the children. What can I do?"
"Is your husband a Christian?" "Oh, yes." She replied.
"Have you talked with your husband about how you feel?"
"Yes, I have told him until I am blue in the face about his lack of support in the home."
We’ve all enjoyed the Thanksgiving holiday with food galore, family fun, lots of football, and hopefully some relaxation. Before we know it Christmas will be here and the imminent New Year will be rung in. And both will likely involve even more food, lots of time with extended family members, and perhaps a glimmer or two of relaxation.
In my experience, I have found ego to be nothing more than pride in its bloated state. For example, a cavalier man (no pun-intended to my Cleveland Cavs Fans) is extremely pompous when it comes to his money, position, education and etc.
It is true that a man makes a mistake when he doesn't incorporate his wife's opinion into any decision. But to make her make the decision because you are unwilling to is frustrating for most women. And just as hurtful is the husband who only makes decisions that are in his own interests.
Without thinking I say “Yes, no problem!” Within seconds of getting in my car, this woman was offering herself to me sexually; her demeanor totally changed. She touched my arm and my flesh cried out: “Glory!” I have not felt the touch of a woman in so long. My flesh continued speaking by saying ...
Do you listen to what your wife is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your naïve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions.
My father was around while I was growing up, but not on a daily basis. In fact, there were some long spans of time when I didn't see my dad. When I had the opportunity to spend time with him, he taught me things, but they were usually most useful to me on the streets.
The impacts of the male influence in families may not be obvious. Does it really matter if a male is not a part of a child's life? Many people grew up with fathers whose primary role was as provider. The presence of a male figure in the home does impact children.
One fateful day, David said he was leaving for work but instead went to the liquor store, He ended up at his buddy's house and had to call the man an ambulance because his buddy was having a heart attack. When David tried to leave, he bumped the ambulance with his big car.
Morning shift at a hostel starts early. No, I didn’t misspell “hotel.” And forget scary movies set in Eastern European countries.
At the age of 58, I went to see my urologist for a prescription refill. Before filling it, he told me he wanted to check my prostate. When the exam was over, he said, “I’m very sorry to tell you this, but I felt a suspicious lump, and we need to schedule you for a biopsy.” I left the office terrified.
Getting married is the second-biggest decision a person makes in their life. Accepting Jesus as their Lord and Savior is the first and greatest decision a person will ever make. Being joined together by God as husband and wife, a couple begins to experience a level of understanding and intimacy with God through one another that is profound. Speaking of this fact, the apostle Paul says, “This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church” (Eph. 5:32).
As it is in the spirit realm, so it is in the natural realm. In my opinion, they are two sides of the same coin. Here's what I mean...
We have so many children being born without a dad to properly love, nurture, and reflect God to them. Similarly, we see so many Christians being converted, but the church remains lax in its discipleship efforts. Discipleship takes time. As a result, there's a definite neglect of any spiritual fathering taking place.
W. Tozer said, “A real Christian is an odd number anyway.” The Apostle Peter addresses us as “aliens and strangers in the world” (1 Peter 2:11). What a strange thing to say to creatures that bleed red and are standing on planet Earth. We’re not extraterrestrials, for crying out loud. So if we’re not from […]
Christian marriages are to be different than the unbeliever’s marriage because a follower of Christ becomes sanctified (set apart) through the word for God’s purpose. (John 17:17) When a Christian obediently follows the principles of Christ it has a purifying affect on the heart and mind. Are you letting the word of God cleanse you and your marriage? This is how a Christian husband should love his wife?
The 2012 Summer Olympics in London were phenomenal. Many Olympic and world records were broken. Here’s one The U.S. men’s Olympic basketball team beat Nigeria 156-73 in an epic blowout. They broke the Olympic record for most points in a game with 4:37 still to play, and set U.S. records for three-pointers (26), field goals (59), and field-goal percentage (71). The previous record for most points in a game was 138 by Brazil in 1988 against Egypt.
If you or someone you love is struggling with a porn addiction, take these steps to freedom.
At a men’s conference I sponsored recently in Philadelphia, some of my friends took the stage and got gut-level honest about their temptations. I was so proud of their courage. Shay, a young father from Ohio, admitted that he was exposed to hard-core pornography when he was only five years old. He began modeling what he saw in X-rated videos when he was just six.
I had the opportunity to return to India on a mission trip last month. Having overcome all of the unknowns the first time around, I was able to approach this one with more confidence.
Weakness, fear and a profound lack of faith drive us back to the grave for the familiar things that require little or no real commitment or accountability or cost to us. We remain like grasshoppers in the sight of the giants in the land.
How can a Christian man win his wife's heart back is not really that different than any other, the biggest difference is that you believe in Jesus Christ, and you are doing your best to be a good man! If you have lost your wife, and want to win her back there is a sequence that you can follow to achieve such a goal. From one Christian man to another, to get your wife back, one needs to have true dedication, and the courage to accept the things you can not change, and change the things that you can...
Sports fans know that perfection is rarely if ever achieved. Virtually every sport has a system designed to manage imperfection. With the Texas Rangers making the World Series for a second time, I’ve been thinking about the way the game of baseball is played and called, and the way we live.
Have you ever wondered what a pie chart of your time would look like? What percentage of your time is devoted to work? To family commitments? To all the things you have to do: pay the bills, mow the lawn, help chauffeur the kids around, spend time with your spouse and children? These activities make up the big sections of the pie chart. The smaller slivers of the chart indicate room that is left for exercise, recreation, volunteering, time with your friends, and maybe a few spiritual activities.