In my candid opinion, when a Christian is not sure on this or any subject, he or she should choose to take the high-ground of principle over preference. Your choice should not supersede the word of God. This is a wise and safe approach.
It has not been a perfect marriage, but He is perfecting it by perfecting us daily. AMEN! We love it! We didn't have to look for a spouse. We didn't have to seek each other. The LORD just made sure that our paths crossed at the proper time KAIROS. And we rejoice at the work of His hands!
Over the years, I've noticed a trend in marriages that come to me with problems. It seems that every one of them had at least two of the issues presented in this article. The wise husband or the wise wife would do well to take the temperature of their marriage by examining these six areas.
The pandemic of adultery in marriage today is all about the cheater they are mislead into believing that they can defraud and disrespect another person's physical space while at the same time trespassing against the marriage bed. Reality dictates that this will happen again and again until your spouse gives up the need for approval and emotional ego boosting from others, which happens only when they get right with God.
The first key to helping your spouse is to accept wholeheartedly the truth about alcohol addiction. It's nearly impossible for you to be helpful if you're not certain there's a problem.
Unfortunately although many cheating spouses will not hesitate to offer whatever the faithful spouse says they need, they don't always deliver it in the way that the faithful spouse had hoped.
All of a sudden, my husband wants me to step out of my comfort zone in bed and please him orally. That is out of bounds for me morally and spiritually. Is my refusal to please him this way a sign of being non-submissive?
Wives sometimes tell me that their husband truly is never going to care because he has checked out of the marriage. I find that even in those cases, there is still regret. Most people realize that regardless of the state of your relationship or the circumstances, there are options other than cheating.
Good communication is the key to any relationship. I'm writing a book on it because the importance of this concept is generally misunderstood. Yelling, screaming, nagging, and name calling doesn't really do much to get an immature husband to accept responsibility. Learn to communicate your fears better.
Two most important elements that are required for a stable marriage are Love and Trust. This calls for a proper understanding of the different roles of spouses in a relationship. Individual differences must be respected. Though the marriage commitment does supersede some individual rights, it should not destroy all individual rights.
With marriage, of course, the course is unknown. Many unknown mountains need to be climbed, not to mention the valleys to be endured. The early going sees much excitement - and maybe some trouble ...
However, it did come out in court that Kevin had an "explosive anger" problem. Family members and two psychologists attested to this. One even gave a name for it; while the other agreed Kevin had an anger problem but was unwilling to give it a label. Both psychologists agreed that Kevin showed no signs of mental illness. Kevin's issues stemmed from childhood where he'd explode for no apparent reason.
Any time my wife and I quarrel, she has a habit of discussing our business with her family and friends. Her version of what happened is always told in her favor. Her friends and family think I am such a villain. What will it take for my wife to stop airing our dirty laundry in public?
There are different ways that people typically deal with anger. Many people internalize their feelings of anger. In trying to avoid dealing with it, unforgiveness and bitterness take root, gradually poisoning their marriage. Turning it inward doesn't deal with the anger; instead it's allowed to build up over time.
How to survive the affair is a question that has no standard answer; couples need to find their own paths to re-instill the love and trust back into the relationship. More and more couples are choosing to heal and rebuild their marriage rather than file for divorce. The process of rebuilding a solid marriage foundation after an affair can be a positive experience if both you and your husband are committed to making it work!
I was in a relationship with an emotionally abusive person who often cheated on me and made me feel worthless. I have moved on with my life, but there is so much bitterness in my heart. I want to forgive and forget, but cannot. Please help me help myself.
“Mmmmm…” That is the sound of Mrs. Happy yawning on a Saturday morning. After a week of hard work and general sleep deprivation, she looks forward to sleeping in a few minutes. Oh, and visiting Mr. Happy. Or Mr. Happy visiting her. However it goes. And everyone is happy in the end, if you know what I mean.
Mrs. Happy is asked this question often. She is amazed, in fact, by how regularly it’s posed by believers. Then she noticed on a recent cross-country road trip the proliferation of “adult toy” stores set in tidy buildings at seemingly random places along the interstate. (Well, not exactly random. They are in remote places, no doubt ducking municipal zoning laws. See? Even the heathens know better than to invite it in their town.) And then she remembered all of the ridiculous “lingerie” and “marital enhancement” parties that have invaded Middle America. Sex toys are everywhere; someone in China, no doubt, is making a fortune off of it. (And mocking us all the while.)
It is a sad but true statistic that one out of two marriages in the Western world ends up in divorce. Among Christian conservatives, the statistic is one out of three. This is alarming. It appears that even among Bible-believing Christians, the divorce rate is not far behind the rest of the Western world. What is more alarming is that this gap is closing.
After much evaluation of my life, my past, my present and visualizing my future, it is imperative for me to move forward. I realize I can’t move forward while being hindered and distracted by my past failures, hurts, mistakes or my present issues. So I have filed for a Divorce.
Today, shockingly, I learned two people I know are either getting divorced or already are. An older couple that I have known for over ten years, and a couple that are very good fiends of my oldest son and daughter-in-law. Was it a covenant or a contract that they recognized between them?
Did you know that God commands that believers marry in the Lord? If a believer marries a non-believer the marriage could possibly weaken the Christian commitment of the believer. Even so, some Christians marry unbelievers because love has blinded them.
Some Christians believe they can change their spouse to be what they want them to be once they are married, but that is not true at all. In fact a person has to be willing to change for themselves, and not for anyone else.
Divorce breaks the hearts of those involved couples, children, parents, friends, church, and the heart of God. One of the greatest underlying events destroying marriages today is adultery. The following is a frank and spiritual message on how to save a marriage after an affair.
My fervent passion is in saving marriages and making them healthy and holy again. I encourage you to at least make a commitment not to remain at a disinterested distance when couples you love have their lives coming apart.
After thirty-five years of marriage, I feel highly qualified to share a few encouraging facts about the secret to marriage longevity. As I promised, they can be summarized into five (5) words. If, after reading this brief article, you have suggestions of your own, please feel free to let me know.
Once the first seven years of marriage have passed you know, those years of adjustment when he establishes who wears the pants, and reminds you to be subservient, and you wonder what happened to all those "courting days" promises of peace, love, chocolates, and flowers well, that was yesterday! Now you now take control, but not in obvious ways!
Rachel found herself thrust into the spotlight the day she accepted the role of "respondent" in the drama called divorce. It was the biggest joke that became the costliest. Leroy and Rachel were married for only two years though they had dated for eight years. From the day after they exchanged vows until the day Leroy filed for divorce, their union was plagued by third party interference. Rachel and Leroy each had their own set of advisers. It was typical of Rachel to pour her feelings to an outsider than in the ears of her helpmate.
God created us with the desire for sex, and we ought to understand his design that was meant for us in our relationships with others about sex. Christians absolutely need to seek God's purpose in this area of their lives. God created us male and female and because of that we will be attracted to one another, but we must learn to control our desires because having sex, and even the desire for sex with someone outside of marriage is not God's plan.
We have moved beyond the need for mere "marital counseling" to a need for "marriage promotion." People are not getting married. Extreme secular culture has even gone as far as declaring marriage as old fashion, obsolete, and antiquated. The results are live-ins and/or disposable marriages. This cancerous ideology is metastasizing among heterosexuals while those who promote the gay agenda are seeking to distort the definition of marriage beyond that of a covenant relationship between one man and one woman. Simply put this most primary and historical institute of humanity is under attack on every front, whether divorce, abandonment, or perversion.
All of life’s successes start with having the right relationships with the right people. It was not a big surprise that Jesus Christ chose the twelve disciples primarily for relationship sake. That they might be with Him (1). After God made man and confirmed he was good, He concluded that being alone was not good for him (2), hence, he created a woman to be with the first man and this marked the beginning of relationship between humans.
"My husband won't lead the family in bible study or prayer. He won't even discipline the children. What can I do?"
"Is your husband a Christian?"
"Oh, yes." She replied.
"Have you talked with your husband about how you feel?"
"Yes, I have told him until I am blue in the face about his lack of support in the home."