By Margie Slider Parenting as we know doesn’t come with a manual! Not like replacing a furnace or fixing a car. Sure there are many, many books which have been written by experts and non-experts, but which ones are the ones you should read. Which strategies and styles work and which don’t? Well I have […]
I want to discuss your friends. Be mindful of the people that you call your friends. If people are truly your friends, they will want to see you do well in life, and they won't try to put you in a position where you can get into trouble, hurt yourself or others, or completely ruin your life by making a bad decision that will cost you big time!
I hear from many desperate single moms trying to keep their sanity while rearing their children and making a living at the same time. This has become a gargantuan nightmare for many young women, men, middle-aged women, and grandmas, who, for many reasons, have ended up with the sole responsibility of caring for young children and teens.
I remember the first sight of seeing my mother and hearing her screaming shocked me to insistently wanting to jump up at which point my dad showed up and told my mother to cool it and gently pushed my shoulders back down onto the stretcher. It was around then that I realized I was in some kind of pain.
My favorite memories of summer are the special weeks when I attended camp. I remember cooking s’mores over the campfire, swimming every day, playing crazy games, and being with the other kids laughing and having such fun.
The implications of"what if I am right" can be enough to send a parent over the edge. But you have to remember something, usually your parent meter is right. There are very few times when a parent suspects something to be wrong...only to find out everything is just fine and dandy. So you need to act upon your gut feeling. The first thing to do is look for the signs that come with teenage drug abuse.
"The Bible also tells us to be careful about the company we keep," her mom added. "We become like the people we spend time with.
"Even if we don't think so, everything thing we watch and everyone we spend time with affects who we become.
Our children's salvation is a weighty matter. Like the Word reflects when our teens are lured into the bondage of drugs, self-abusive behaviors, gay-lesbian relationships, pornography, or any of the many debilitating behaviors that plague teenagers today, our hearts break into many pieces.
I remember going to a restaurant with my husband and our two year old son. The waiter had brought our food and we were just settling down to enjoy a scrumptious meal when something that looked like a baby bottle went whistling past our heads and hit the wall at the far end of the room. This was followed by a piercing scream from the table to our right.
The step parent is looked upon as an intruder because of preconceived ideas fueled by the 'step parent myth.' When the situation is not handled diplomatically and with patience, the failure rate will increase. When the children are teenagers or adolescents, the problem becomes even more difficult.
That said, this whole infertility nonsense has given my relationship with God a run for its money. Between negative pregnancy tests and an endometriosis diagnosis, I have gotten a little angry at Him. I have cried out, fallen on my knees and silently screamed to Him over the past eight years, wondering where on earth He is. My faith, friends, has been shaken up.
At one time or another in our lives many of us have been teased, made fun of, laughed at, or verbally or emotionally tormented by someone else with whom we were associated. If you have ever experienced any or all of these things I am sure, like me, you have never forgotten how it feels.
Consider these American father facts:
My wife and I have enjoyed the privilege of raising and loving our three children. Our oldest, Caleb, has graduated from college and is working full-time. Living at home this last year, he was able to pay off all of his student loans. Hallelujah! Our other two children will graduate from college in May 2013.
The recent suicide of 14-year-old Jamey Rodemeyer in Buffalo, New York, caught my attention, and rather than just read the news, sympathize for a while, and forget until another bullying death was reported, I knew I needed to teach a way to combat this monster.
The following powerful Scripture compares two opposite philosophies of education, two contrary perspectives of God and the world, two completely opposing worldviews.
"See to it that no one takes you CAPTIVE through philosophy and empty deception, according to the tradition of men, according to the elementary principle the world, rather than according to CHRIST." Apostle Paul, Colossians 2:8
Your child needs to know what to do when he has nightmares or bad dreams. I taught my daughters and grandsons that whenever they had a bad dream or if fear came into their heart, they should sing, “Jesus loves me, this I know, for the Bible tells me so…” You can teach them to say, “In the name of Jesus, I will not be afraid!” and “Jesus is my Lord.”
Child bullying is a big problem in our schools today. The main difference between child bullying today from the past is the nature of the bullying and the violence that occurs in the aftermath. Cyberbullying is becoming a popular and more destructive form of bullying than traditional bullying. More children today are bringing guns to school to seek revenge on others. Child bullying has been around and will probably remain for years to come.
People more commonly associate depression with adults rather than with the younger generation. Recent studies, however, show alarming statistics on teenage suicide as a result of depression: Suicide is the eighth leading cause of death for all persons regardless of age, sex or race; the third leading cause of death for young people aged 15 to 24; and the fourth leading cause of death for persons between the ages of 10 and 14. Depression now occurs in about 5% of adolescents at any given point in time and often without parents even knowing about it. According to a recent survey of high school students, teens (60%) often think about killing themselves and some (9%) say they have made an attempt at least once. In the past three decades, teen suicide worldwide has risen up to 300%.
God is waiting for you to come out of the wilderness and leap out of your comfort zone. This is no time to continue drilling in your head the 'what if's.'
My daughter was telling me yesterday that a young lady was telling her that her mother was paranoid and extremely fearful because she fears the same fate of her own mother, who died when she was 47 of an incurable disease. All these years she has become increasingly more agitated and fearful as she expects the same thing that happened to her mom, will happen to her as well. Does that sound familiar? Have you met someone like this? All they can say is negative and fearful.
Likely everybody has heard about or knows a teenager or young adult who has experienced trouble with the law or who has been expelled from school or perhaps even threatened someone at school, sometimes with a weapon. People know these teens have problems, but they may not know these behaviors can be symptoms of a very real psychiatric illness affecting approximately 9 percent of all boys and 2 percent of all girls under the age of 18 in the United States.
Fearing that your child is being bullied is a parent's worst nightmare. Parents become really anxious and worried when their kids are scared to leave the house fearing some bully who may behave in a mean manner with them or even beat them up. Since we don't know exactly what might happen, all we can do is figure out how to respond to the different possible scenarios.
But when our child is the bully, what can we do? This is a possibility we probably have not prepared you for. If you happen to be the parent of a bully, and you need help dealing with the situation, take a look at the following tips.
A distraught mother of a seven-year old boy, asked if she could come and share something personal with me.
Our talk revealed that Steven (not his real name) was having problems. She told me that the boy had strange behavior and that his teacher had called her to ask her if everything was all right at home. Steven had started to become withdrawn, wanting to sit by himself at break time and was not concentrating in class.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
That is probably the most common chant on any school playground. And it's a big lie. Words probably hurt more than any physical wound ever could. Because they live on in our hearts. We end up becoming what it is that was said about us. That is why words are so critical to who we believe we are.
In Deuteronomy 6:6-9 we read about God's instructions for spiritually educating our children. In this passage, we see just how high a priority this education is with God: "These words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates."
A mother, my good friend, once shared with me how she struggled with the maturity level of her son, Pete. She thought she had been a good mom and she certainly loved her son. She had spent a lot of time with him and yet he constantly underachieved.
Pete even lost friends, academic goals, and sports opportunities because of this character flaw. So this mother wondered if she had failed him as a parent? Or did the responsibility lay on her son's shoulders alone?
These days, Godly relationships seem as extinct as dinosaurs. Every time your teenager turns on the television or reads a magazine, they are inundated with the latest celebrity relationship news. These secular influences treat dating like a hobby, and during the impressionable teen years, it is important to help your teenager realize that it is possible to have a Godly relationship.
"Caleb it's time to take out the trash." The fight following that simple request was like a tornado ramming into the house and taking off the roof. Screams erupted and before I could back out of his room we were in a shouting match over a chore that would have taken less than two minutes if he had just paused his game long enough to get it done.
Child discipline refers to the rules, rewards or punishments, which are administered for teaching self control, increasing desirable behaviors as well as decreasing undesirable behavior among children. As it is, the word discipline generally refers to the systematic instructions given to disciples. Therefore to discipline means instructing a person, to pursue a certain code of behavior. While the objective of children discipline is that of developing as well as entrenching the desirable social habits among children, the major objective is that of fostering sound morals and judgment so that the child would maintain as well as develop self discipline all through the rest of his/her life .