Not much, if you’re trying to live a chaste life. Our brains don’t need much of an excuse to think about sex, especially when we’re not having any. So any detailed conversation about sex with your fiancé can easily lead to arousal. In fact, if he is alive and breathing and pumping red blood cells, the conversation is leading to arousal. Might as well just admit it.
If you are not married but you're in a serious relationship that is headed toward marriage, where do you draw the line on physical contact? Do only what you would do in front of your father. If you can’t relate to that because of a broken or unhealthy relationship with your natural father, substitute spiritual father. If you wouldn’t do it in the presence of your pastor, don’t do it.
Mrs. Happy’s heart goes out to single believers who are struggling mightily with sexual desire. She hasn’t forgotten what it was like to be single and sexually frustrated with no (righteous) relief in sight. So it is with dismay that she sees how many young Christian men are unwilling to make a marriage commitment—yet find themselves unable to live a sexually pure life. There is an obvious answer to their predicament: Get married. Yes, it is absolutely legitimate for a believing man to marry a believing woman with sex being one of the primary motivating factors.
One thing Mrs. Happy discovered during a bit of research is that Bible-believing Christians disagree sharply on this subject. Why so much disagreement? Because the Bible never mentions masturbation, not even once. Any argument on either side must be built on general Scriptural principles; the Word of God declines to say “do” or “don’t.”
I was the definition of untouchable in high school: a black girl in a white school, a working-class girl with wealthy classmates, and a Christian girl in an amoral environment. I was a pair of Pumas in a world of docksiders. Rarely asked out on dates or invited to parties.
I sat on the living room floor, back leaning against the sofa, staring at the television as if my life depended on it. I really wasn't watching anything but I was lost in the transition of colors that came with the screen changes as it went from featured program to advertisements and then back again. I glanced at my watch, 9:30 PM, and it's all over -the much awaited Valentine's Day, that is.
The Biblical account of the Creation is painted first in broad strokes. The first few chapters of Genesis then fill in the details as we make successive passes through the account. A careful chronological ordering of the creation of man gives us this synopsis: God created man in His image, male and female. He put them in a garden where they were naked and unashamed and told them to procreate, and then God pronounced it good. In my Christian experience I have wanted to argue many a point with God; I have always cheerfully conceded this one. James tells us that every good and perfect gift comes from the Father of Lights and sex is clearly such a gift. But our first parents were expelled from that garden and in the curse God pronounced over Adam we are told that despite our careful and diligent cultivation we are as likely to harvest thorns as good fruit.
Many Christian singles like to quote the scripture that says "God does not give us a spirit of fear." But somebody must have snuck in the back door and scared the "bejeebies" out of many single Christian men because a lot of us are intimidated by independent women. Come on brothers, what in the world are we afraid of?
There are single Christian women who have it going on. They look good, smell good, make "good" money, live in a nice house, drive a nice car and seem to exude a ton of self-confidence. Isn't that the kind of woman we want in our lives? But, instead we make up lame excuses like "She's too independent" or "She acts like she does not need a man" or "She is too high maintenance". Lies, lies, lies!
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Sex between two married people is a very beautiful aspect of marriage. God has blessed us with the ability to give and receive physical pleasure with the one we are married to. But when we give ourselves to another before marriage, sex becomes something else altogether.
The dating scene can be a difficult world to navigate when you are looking for a mate. For women of Christian faith it may be even more difficult to find a godly Christian man. For this reason, it is all the more important for Christian women to know the characteristics of a godly Christian man.
The most important characteristic that a Christian man should exhibit is his devotion to the Lord. A man that loves God must live his life according to His purpose and put the Lord first. A man of faith lives his daily life according to his Christian beliefs and practices.
You are welcome to another segment on this column. Throughout this month, I shall be deliberating on the topic, making right choices in marriage. Choice is one of the fundamental principles of the kingdom of God. Whatever or wherever you are today is a product of the choices you made yesterday. Daily, you and I are confronted with choices whether to pray, what to eat, what to wear, where to go, what to buy, what to give, whom to marry etc.
So, what's your rush that you would even consider marrying a man who does not know or serve God? You have heard your Pastor preach on this topic too many times not to know what the Word of God says about it. In case you've forgotten, here it is: Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14. Single woman of God, it doesn't matter how old you are or how hopeless you feel, don't you want to wait on God for the best He has assigned for you to find you? Or can you wait no longer and are willing to accept anything Satan hands you with the hope that you can one day change him?
If you are a single parent you may have thought parenting was challenging enough when you were married and working as a team. Even married couples do not always agree on how to raise children, yet they are more likely to listen to each other' view point, discuss and explore options, and reach a mutually acceptable approach.
Co-parenting after a divorce can present some unique challenges. I understand as a parent that we are all human and we all make mistakes. I also understand how frustrating it can be when a parent makes poor choices, bad decisions and presents a less than desirable role model for your children.
The Big Lie.
People say it different ways.
It usually starts out: "As long as you honor God with your substance... "
And then they finish it with...
With special events like Valentine's Day coming and going each year, I am reminded how difficult it can be to retain your spirit of who you are when you're a Christian single.
It just sometimes feels like it would be easier to mold yourself into whatever your dating partners want, and then you can get on with living happily ever after.