Not much, if you’re trying to live a chaste life. Our brains don’t need much of an excuse to think about sex, especially when we’re not having any. So any detailed conversation about sex with your fiancé can easily lead to arousal. In fact, if he is alive and breathing and pumping red blood cells, the conversation is leading to arousal. Might as well just admit it.
If you are not married but you're in a serious relationship that is headed toward marriage, where do you draw the line on physical contact? Do only what you would do in front of your father. If you can’t relate to that because of a broken or unhealthy relationship with your natural father, substitute spiritual father. If you wouldn’t do it in the presence of your pastor, don’t do it.
Mrs. Happy’s heart goes out to single believers who are struggling mightily with sexual desire. She hasn’t forgotten what it was like to be single and sexually frustrated with no (righteous) relief in sight. So it is with dismay that she sees how many young Christian men are unwilling to make a marriage commitment—yet find themselves unable to live a sexually pure life. There is an obvious answer to their predicament: Get married. Yes, it is absolutely legitimate for a believing man to marry a believing woman with sex being one of the primary motivating factors.
One thing Mrs. Happy discovered during a bit of research is that Bible-believing Christians disagree sharply on this subject. Why so much disagreement? Because the Bible never mentions masturbation, not even once. Any argument on either side must be built on general Scriptural principles; the Word of God declines to say “do” or “don’t.”
I sat on the living room floor, back leaning against the sofa, staring at the television as if my life depended on it. I really wasn't watching anything but I was lost in the transition of colors that came with the screen changes as it went from featured program to advertisements and then back again. I glanced at my watch, 9:30 PM, and it's all over -the much awaited Valentine's Day, that is.
The Biblical account of the Creation is painted first in broad strokes. The first few chapters of Genesis then fill in the details as we make successive passes through the account. A careful chronological ordering of the creation of man gives us this synopsis: God created man in His image, male and female. He put them in a garden where they were naked and unashamed and told them to procreate, and then God pronounced it good. In my Christian experience I have wanted to argue many a point with God; I have always cheerfully conceded this one. James tells us that every good and perfect gift comes from the Father of Lights and sex is clearly such a gift. But our first parents were expelled from that garden and in the curse God pronounced over Adam we are told that despite our careful and diligent cultivation we are as likely to harvest thorns as good fruit.
Many Christian singles like to quote the scripture that says "God does not give us a spirit of fear." But somebody must have snuck in the back door and scared the "bejeebies" out of many single Christian men because a lot of us are intimidated by independent women. Come on brothers, what in the world are we afraid of?
There are single Christian women who have it going on. They look good, smell good, make "good" money, live in a nice house, drive a nice car and seem to exude a ton of self-confidence. Isn't that the kind of woman we want in our lives? But, instead we make up lame excuses like "She's too independent" or "She acts like she does not need a man" or "She is too high maintenance". Lies, lies, lies!
Angie and her husband counsel, advise, and encourage couples who are preparing for marriage and who are married. They work with couples from all over ...
Sex between two married people is a very beautiful aspect of marriage. God has blessed us with the ability to give and receive physical pleasure with the one we are married to. But when we give ourselves to another before marriage, sex becomes something else altogether.
The dating scene can be a difficult world to navigate when you are looking for a mate. For women of Christian faith it may be even more difficult to find a godly Christian man. For this reason, it is all the more important for Christian women to know the characteristics of a godly Christian man.
The most important characteristic that a Christian man should exhibit is his devotion to the Lord. A man that loves God must live his life according to His purpose and put the Lord first. A man of faith lives his daily life according to his Christian beliefs and practices.
You are welcome to another segment on this column. Throughout this month, I shall be deliberating on the topic, making right choices in marriage. Choice is one of the fundamental principles of the kingdom of God. Whatever or wherever you are today is a product of the choices you made yesterday. Daily, you and I are confronted with choices whether to pray, what to eat, what to wear, where to go, what to buy, what to give, whom to marry etc.
So, what's your rush that you would even consider marrying a man who does not know or serve God? You have heard your Pastor preach on this topic too many times not to know what the Word of God says about it. In case you've forgotten, here it is: Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14. Single woman of God, it doesn't matter how old you are or how hopeless you feel, don't you want to wait on God for the best He has assigned for you to find you? Or can you wait no longer and are willing to accept anything Satan hands you with the hope that you can one day change him?
If you are a single parent you may have thought parenting was challenging enough when you were married and working as a team. Even married couples do not always agree on how to raise children, yet they are more likely to listen to each other' view point, discuss and explore options, and reach a mutually acceptable approach.
Co-parenting after a divorce can present some unique challenges. I understand as a parent that we are all human and we all make mistakes. I also understand how frustrating it can be when a parent makes poor choices, bad decisions and presents a less than desirable role model for your children.
The Big Lie.
People say it different ways.
It usually starts out: "As long as you honor God with your substance... "
And then they finish it with...
With special events like Valentine's Day coming and going each year, I am reminded how difficult it can be to retain your spirit of who you are when you're a Christian single.
It just sometimes feels like it would be easier to mold yourself into whatever your dating partners want, and then you can get on with living happily ever after.
It's a normal Sunday morning when you meet her. You are going through your normal routines when you look up from your place in the pew and see her. You heard something about a missionary coming that morning so you assume it must be the missionary's wife. No one else is around at the moment, so you decide to see if there’s anything you can do to help her. Maybe she needs help finding the nursery or the Sunday schoolroom.
There is a big hidden secret behind most people's inability to find a God fearing spouse. It is such a deep secret that even those who are supposed to be happily married are finding that there's no honey or spice in their relationship at all.
The good news I'm going to share with you here is so powerful that you'll begin to attract a God fearing partner in a short period of time.
The Big Lie. People say it different ways. It usually starts out: "As long as you honor God with your substance...
" And then they finish it with...
"... God will reward you with a wonderful spouse."
"... you can claim your marriage partner."
"... and have a marriage made in heaven." And so on.
As a single Christian man, enlightenment came a little late to me in my bachelor days and at age 36 I was still single. When I found out that my kid brother, 6 years younger than me just had his first-born, life's harsh realities somehow got into my senses. I'm not getting any younger, and my old friends and contemporaries aren't with me any longer and are busy with their own lives. So, there's not much fun anymore. Time really flies so swiftly. It dawned on me that I really have to set my priorities right otherwise I might miss the boat.
In our daily lives, single Christian women and men have found comfort and enjoyment with the company of their boyfriends and girlfriends, so much so that they have become emotionally dependent on each other. However most often than not, this emotional and physical closeness has exposed them to the probable consequences and dangers of pre-marital sex.