Not much, if you’re trying to live a chaste life. Our brains don’t need much of an excuse to think about sex, especially when we’re not having any. So any detailed conversation about sex with your fiancé can easily lead to arousal. In fact, if he is alive and breathing and pumping red blood cells, the conversation is leading to arousal. Might as well just admit it.
If you are not married but you're in a serious relationship that is headed toward marriage, where do you draw the line on physical contact? Do only what you would do in front of your father. If you can’t relate to that because of a broken or unhealthy relationship with your natural father, substitute spiritual father. If you wouldn’t do it in the presence of your pastor, don’t do it.
Mrs. Happy’s heart goes out to single believers who are struggling mightily with sexual desire. She hasn’t forgotten what it was like to be single and sexually frustrated with no (righteous) relief in sight. So it is with dismay that she sees how many young Christian men are unwilling to make a marriage commitment—yet find themselves unable to live a sexually pure life. There is an obvious answer to their predicament: Get married. Yes, it is absolutely legitimate for a believing man to marry a believing woman with sex being one of the primary motivating factors.
One thing Mrs. Happy discovered during a bit of research is that Bible-believing Christians disagree sharply on this subject. Why so much disagreement? Because the Bible never mentions masturbation, not even once. Any argument on either side must be built on general Scriptural principles; the Word of God declines to say “do” or “don’t.”
I was the definition of untouchable in high school: a black girl in a white school, a working-class girl with wealthy classmates, and a Christian girl in an amoral environment. I was a pair of Pumas in a world of docksiders. Rarely asked out on dates or invited to parties.
I sat on the living room floor, back leaning against the sofa, staring at the television as if my life depended on it. I really wasn't watching anything but I was lost in the transition of colors that came with the screen changes as it went from featured program to advertisements and then back again. I glanced at my watch, 9:30 PM, and it's all over -the much awaited Valentine's Day, that is.
The Biblical account of the Creation is painted first in broad strokes. The first few chapters of Genesis then fill in the details as we make successive passes through the account. A careful chronological ordering of the creation of man gives us this synopsis: God created man in His image, male and female. He put them in a garden where they were naked and unashamed and told them to procreate, and then God pronounced it good. In my Christian experience I have wanted to argue many a point with God; I have always cheerfully conceded this one. James tells us that every good and perfect gift comes from the Father of Lights and sex is clearly such a gift. But our first parents were expelled from that garden and in the curse God pronounced over Adam we are told that despite our careful and diligent cultivation we are as likely to harvest thorns as good fruit.
Many Christian singles like to quote the scripture that says "God does not give us a spirit of fear." But somebody must have snuck in the back door and scared the "bejeebies" out of many single Christian men because a lot of us are intimidated by independent women. Come on brothers, what in the world are we afraid of?
There are single Christian women who have it going on. They look good, smell good, make "good" money, live in a nice house, drive a nice car and seem to exude a ton of self-confidence. Isn't that the kind of woman we want in our lives? But, instead we make up lame excuses like "She's too independent" or "She acts like she does not need a man" or "She is too high maintenance". Lies, lies, lies!
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Sex between two married people is a very beautiful aspect of marriage. God has blessed us with the ability to give and receive physical pleasure with the one we are married to. But when we give ourselves to another before marriage, sex becomes something else altogether.