By Abraham Lee

It is a sad but true statistic that one out of two marriages in the Western world ends up in divorce. Among Christian conservatives, the statistic is one out of three. This is alarming. It appears that even among Bible-believing Christians, the divorce rate is not far behind the rest of the Western world. What is more alarming is that this gap is closing.

Any time my wife and I quarrel, she has a habit of discussing our business with her family and friends. Her version of what happened is always told in her favor. Her friends and family think I am such a villain. What will it take for my wife to stop airing our dirty laundry in public?

Ladies, ladies. Sigh.

How many of your girlfriends look cross-eyed at your husband because you tattled about all of his misdeeds (real, exaggerated, and imagined) early in your marriage, and now, even though he’s a better man, and you’re a better woman, they’re still convinced he’s doing you dirty?

Question by reader:

All of a sudden, my husband wants me to step out of my comfort zone in bed and please him orally. That is out of bounds for me morally and spiritually. Is my refusal to please him this way a sign of being non-submissive?

Answer by Mrs. Happy

If you can’t do it with a clear conscience, don’t do it.

You’re under no obligation to do something that you consider demeaning and sinful. To do so—even as an attempt to be submissive—would cause damage to your sexual relationship with your husband. I am concerned that in just a little while, you would have no interest in sex at all.