"If it were classified as a disease, fatherlessness would be an epidemic worthy of attention as a national emergency."
I cannot help but believe that some of the problems we are having in our society today would not be such a problem if we had fathers. How many families are there where children grow up not knowing their father? No wonder they have no respect for authority. Although my father was not a very well educated person, he knew how to use the Board of Education on the Seat of Learning for all his children.
Understanding the responsibility and living it are two separate and specific steps men must act upon. In fact, God places a call on each man to be the patriarch of his family by providing, protecting (warrior), and loving his family well. Many men stumble their way through as family leaders because understanding the role of husband, father, and leader is learned behavior and must be taught by a father or mentor.
We're still dads even after our kids become moms or dads themselves. No, they don't want us to try to run their lives (and neither does God, by the way). But they do still need our maturing love.
"My husband won't lead the family in bible study or prayer. He won't even discipline the children. What can I do?"
"Is your husband a Christian?" "Oh, yes." She replied.
"Have you talked with your husband about how you feel?"
"Yes, I have told him until I am blue in the face about his lack of support in the home."
When her phone calls went unreturned, the aunt drove to the house and got scared when she found both cars in the driveway. After getting no answer at the front door, she walked around to the back, peering through a window...
My father was around while I was growing up, but not on a daily basis. In fact, there were some long spans of time when I didn't see my dad. When I had the opportunity to spend time with him, he taught me things, but they were usually most useful to me on the streets.
The impacts of the male influence in families may not be obvious. Does it really matter if a male is not a part of a child's life? Many people grew up with fathers whose primary role was as provider. The presence of a male figure in the home does impact children.
Many men stumble their way through as family leaders because understanding the role of husband, father, and leader is learned behavior and must be taught by a father or mentor.