Understanding the responsibility and living it are two separate and specific steps men must act upon. In fact, God places a call on each man to be the patriarch of his family by providing, protecting (warrior), and loving his family well. Many men stumble their way through as family leaders because understanding the role of husband, father, and leader is learned behavior and must be taught by a father or mentor.
Mrs. Happy noticed something while raising a son: He experienced the world by touch. He had to set his little paw on everything, causing the occasional mini-disaster in the home and supermarket. (Ah, yes, the giant shattered pickle bottle at Tom Thumb grocery.) And when Mrs. Happy was attempting to discipline her son, she discovered that, for him to “hear” her, she often had to grab his shirt, his shoulders, or the tip of an ear to aid this supposed involuntary function.
So, your husband is sold out to Christ, but where do you stand? Do you stand behind him, or beside him? It is disturbing, but I have seen that many wives of true men of God, including pastors, ministers, evangelists, etc. have not themselves accepted God’s love, truly repented of their sins, inwardly given their lives to Christ and turned away from the ways of this world. Therefore, a personal relationship with the Father in their lives is nonexistent.
Let's face it, men, we generally need a lot of help with relationships. We often want to just fix things and get on with it. That’s why you'll hear silly advice like “give her flowers,” “buy her candy,” “say you're sorry,” or “pray about it.” None of these suggestions are bad in and of themselves. But if you’re just trying to fix things, these gestures are empty, and she doesn’t want them.
"My husband won't lead the family in bible study or prayer. He won't even discipline the children. What can I do?"
"Is your husband a Christian?" "Oh, yes." She replied.
"Have you talked with your husband about how you feel?"
"Yes, I have told him until I am blue in the face about his lack of support in the home."
It is true that a man makes a mistake when he doesn't incorporate his wife's opinion into any decision. But to make her make the decision because you are unwilling to is frustrating for most women. And just as hurtful is the husband who only makes decisions that are in his own interests.
Do you listen to what your wife is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your naïve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions.
My prayer for you my dear beloved is one of deep desire and fervency. I pray for you in the purest of heart that you will come into the fullness of who you are created to be. I pray for you as my husband, my head, my lord and my man. I pray that you will know the depth and the magnitude of the love that God has for you, then only can you be filled with the unconditional love in which only He can give. I pray that you will love yourself because Jesus died to prove that you are worth it. That you never doubt who you are in Christ, nor waver of the marvelous work that you were created to be.