By Dr. James L. Snyder As big as my ears are, you would think I would be able to hear everything I am listening to. I like to think I am hearing what I am listening to but I have so many illustrations that prove otherwise. I’m not sure what it is, but I am […]
Living with someone 'till do us part' and with no regrets, is proving to be an incredible feat. So for those who contemplate marriage, it is important to understand the meaning of marriage.
Let's face it, men, we generally need a lot of help with relationships. We often want to just fix things and get on with it. That’s why you'll hear silly advice like “give her flowers,” “buy her candy,” “say you're sorry,” or “pray about it.” None of these suggestions are bad in and of themselves. But if you’re just trying to fix things, these gestures are empty, and she doesn’t want them.
One day due to the rough economy, he lost his job. The savings dwindled over the passing months, the refrigerator became empty, and the bills piled up on the desk. He spent everyday searching for a new job. He searched the job boards, he tapped into his existing network, and he made connections with unknown people in his field.
This is an important question because we are daily bombarded with misinformation and perverted ideas about sex and human sexuality
7 deceptive thoughts that many believers believe to be true in every marriage.
Enduring an abusive marriage for the rest of your life is definitely not the will of the Father. But does that mean that all abusive marriages should automatically be dissolved?
Today there is no stigma attached to divorce. However, most women feel devastated, confused and betrayed. Some sink into depression and in extreme cases, may even show suicidal tendencies. The reactions to a breakup are similar to what one experiences after bereavement. There is shock, denial, anger, depression and finally acceptance.
How do you submit yourself sexually and basically give him what he wants when he's constantly betraying you? If he says I don't want to use protection and you refuse to give him what he wants because of the constant disappointments, is that your fault?
God created sex; He pronounced it good; it is for the benefit of both the man and the woman; and it is righteous and holy and intended for joy. It is one of God's most wonderful gifts to us. It can be one of the most thoroughly enjoyable aspects of marriage. “Let’s start over with sex.”
There. I gave you a way to start the conversation.
Good sex has three elements:
In my candid opinion, when a Christian is not sure on this or any subject, he or she should choose to take the high-ground of principle over preference. Your choice should not supersede the word of God. This is a wise and safe approach.
To the outside world, her husband often appears charming, a hard worker, dedicated to his family. But his desperation to look that way is so highly important to him that he carefully prunes the image in public saving his deep-seated anger for those behind closed doors. His accusations are unreasonable and unfair always directing attention away from himself.
Over the years, I've noticed a trend in marriages that come to me with problems. It seems that every one of them had at least two of the issues presented in this article. The wise husband or the wise wife would do well to take the temperature of their marriage by examining these six areas.
It is true that a man makes a mistake when he doesn't incorporate his wife's opinion into any decision. But to make her make the decision because you are unwilling to is frustrating for most women. And just as hurtful is the husband who only makes decisions that are in his own interests.
It is a good thing to open a dialogue about sex with your spouse if things aren’t right. But once you initiate the conversation, you must continue with it and not lose hope. Yes, you may suffer blows and hear some things you don’t want to hear, but when you open up the site of a deep wound, the festering substances begin to seep out.
Do you listen to what your wife is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your naïve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions.
Since cohabitation is an arrangement made between two lovers, it has no security. You can be abused physically or emotionally and have no one to turn to for help and support. Your illicit lover can walk out of your life any time and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
Unfortunately although many cheating spouses will not hesitate to offer whatever the faithful spouse says they need, they don't always deliver it in the way that the faithful spouse had hoped.
Love does not insist on having its own way and winning all the time. If you are at fault never hesitate to say you're sorry. Avoid finger pointing. Marriage may provide you with a convenient scapegoat.
Wives sometimes tell me that their husband truly is never going to care because he has checked out of the marriage. I find that even in those cases, there is still regret. Most people realize that regardless of the state of your relationship or the circumstances, there are options other than cheating.
Two most important elements that are required for a stable marriage are Love and Trust. This calls for a proper understanding of the different roles of spouses in a relationship. Individual differences must be respected. Though the marriage commitment does supersede some individual rights, it should not destroy all individual rights.
Each gender has its own marital duties that when practiced appropriately make the marriage thrive. "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband." (1 Corinthians 7:3)
With marriage, of course, the course is unknown. Many unknown mountains need to be climbed, not to mention the valleys to be endured. The early going sees much excitement - and maybe some trouble ...
Mark and Grace Driscoll have written a book on marriage, sex, and friendship with your spouse. It’s spicy. No stranger to controversy, Mark Driscoll has received rabid criticism from other theologically conservative Christians for his NC-17 discussions of sexuality. He’s even inferred that marriages would be stronger if wives gave more oral sex.
I love my husband and I know he loves me, but he does not tell me “I love you” as much as I love him to. He believes saying it once a day should cover for the whole day. Am I being petty or simply saying what I am entitled to?
Don’t harangue him, demanding answers. Yes, I know that lack of communication is part of the problem here. But Mrs. Happy has noticed that the men in her life have a strange capacity for not seeing the elephant in the room, even when it’s snorting, grunting, and squashing their left big toe.
Any time my wife and I quarrel, she has a habit of discussing our business with her family and friends. Her version of what happened is always told in her favor. Her friends and family think I am such a villain. What will it take for my wife to stop airing our dirty laundry in public?
Mrs. Happy sheepishly admits that she watched a few R-rated movies in the past, though she will no longer watch films of any rating that have significant sexual content.
The vast majority of couples go into marriage completely clueless about good sex. Sure, they might have something they call “experience,” usually from hurried couplings in illicit relationships. Sorry to be so blunt, but I have listened to these girlfriends, and while they might be attracted to you, the sex itself is not attractive.
How to survive the affair is a question that has no standard answer; couples need to find their own paths to re-instill the love and trust back into the relationship. More and more couples are choosing to heal and rebuild their marriage rather than file for divorce. The process of rebuilding a solid marriage foundation after an affair can be a positive experience if both you and your husband are committed to making it work!