God created sex; He pronounced it good; it is for the benefit of both the man and the woman; and it is righteous and holy and intended for joy.
Mrs. Happy recalls a recent time when, for about four weeks, she had very little interest in being intimate with her spouse via sex--and even when she did have sex, it wasn’t anywhere near as good as usual.
Mrs. Happy noticed something while raising a son: He experienced the world by touch. He had to set his little paw on everything, causing the occasional mini-disaster in the home and supermarket. (Ah, yes, the giant shattered pickle bottle at Tom Thumb grocery.) And when Mrs. Happy was attempting to discipline her son, she discovered that, for him to “hear” her, she often had to grab his shirt, his shoulders, or the tip of an ear to aid this supposed involuntary function.
I am the first lady and my husband is the pastor of the church we attend. We have been married for 15 years. Recently, my mind pushed me to do something that I normally would not do. Because of the reckless spending habits of my husband over the years, I secretly opened a savings account in my name that he is unaware of. We still operate the joint account together, but I am scared of waking up one morning with nothing to fall back on. Is my action wise or foolish?
The sting of rejection paralyzes some people, preventing them from ever moving beyond the offense and forward into the future. Granted, there are those people who use rejection as weaponry and are fully aware that their actions are injurious.
One thing Mrs. Happy discovered during a bit of research is that Bible-believing Christians disagree sharply on this subject. Why so much disagreement? Because the Bible never mentions masturbation, not even once. Any argument on either side must be built on general Scriptural principles; the Word of God declines to say “do” or “don’t.”
It is a good thing to open a dialogue about sex with your spouse if things aren’t right. But once you initiate the conversation, you must continue with it and not lose hope. Yes, you may suffer blows and hear some things you don’t want to hear, but when you open up the site of a deep wound, the festering substances begin to seep out.
Mrs. Happy had a tough time learning to respect her husband, especially when it came to curbing her naturally nimble (um, sharp) tongue. She felt a “need” to point out his flaws and register her annoyance (check this out: Proverbs 12:16) and undoubtedly hindered her husband’s growth as a leader, businessman, and friend.
Mrs. Happy has known women in ministry who began with a soft heart toward God but heard so much of the sins of men through counseling that they started to develop a hard heart toward men generally. Mind you, these women in ministry sincerely cared about the ladies they were counseling, but somewhere along the line all of these sad tales caused them to take sides and become judges of the situations presented to them. When they became judges in their hearts, they eventually began to speak against men as a group. The Holy Spirit promptly withdrew from their counsel.
Millennials want nothing more (and nothing less) than relationship from older believers. They know they’re troubled in their marriages and friendships, and they’re looking to spiritually mature believers to point and model The Way.
Don’t harangue him, demanding answers. Yes, I know that lack of communication is part of the problem here. But Mrs. Happy has noticed that the men in her life have a strange capacity for not seeing the elephant in the room, even when it’s snorting, grunting, and squashing their left big toe.
Do not allow yourself to voice a negative attitude about men—and especially your husband. You could end up begin speaking curses on him without even realizing it, and you will reap the harvest of your words (Proverbs 18:21).
“Mmmmm…” That is the sound of Mrs. Happy yawning on a Saturday morning. After a week of hard work and general sleep deprivation, she looks forward to sleeping in a few minutes. Oh, and visiting Mr. Happy. Or Mr. Happy visiting her. However it goes. And everyone is happy in the end, if you know what I mean.