By Irma Givens
Ijumped from bed this morning with a thought of granting myself permission. Have you ever waited on someone else to grant you permission or approval? Are you tired of the wait? Although you carry on with your daily life does it feel like you are living in limbo. Unable to do what you really want and need to do yet, you are not acknowledging that you’re waiting on someone else. Well, this morning I realized that many times along my journey I was indeed waiting on someone else to grant me approval or acceptance which kept me stuck.
There are life-changing decisions that we should make, in a timely fashion. That means that we cannot afford to stand still as if we are waiting on a bus on a cold winter night. I felt the chill throughout my body as I waited on others to allow me to do what I needed to do for my life. Too many times the bus never came and I felt that I was suffering from hypothermia with frostbitten fingers and toes. A feeling I never want to experience again.
Have you allowed opportunities to pass you by, people to pass you by and time to pass by as you waited, only to discover you were not going to get what you were waiting for? In many cases, those that we are waiting on don’t even realize that we are waiting on them and the saddest part is that many times we don’t realize it either. All we know is things are not happening the way we think they should or the way we want them too. STOP, for just a minute and think back on a time when you had a decision to make and for some reason you just could not. Was it the feeling you got down in your gut? Was it the pouring of emotion that you felt? Perhaps, it was your yearning for permission or approval of those near and dear to you.
When I decided to file for divorce I remember the feeling in my gut, I recall the overwhelming emotion and I knew what took me so long to get to that space. My parents had been married for what seemed like forever & subconsciously I wanted to be married just as long if not longer. For me, there was an internal fight that took place for years before I took the leap of faith. I didn’t realize until later that I had been waiting on the permission/approval of my parents. Somehow I wanted them to understand and acknowledge that this was in my best interest. Yet, neither my mom nor dad had the slightest clue. Since they were unaware and I was too years flew by with me standing in the dead of winter at the bus stop and there was no bus in sight.
Come in out of the cold my friend! The bus has been rerouted…it will not arrive at that bus stop. Get real quiet. Pull out your journal and just begin to write without putting too much thought into it. Stop for awhile and then go back. Ask yourself, who am I waiting on? Why am I waiting? Write the answers down in your journal. Get up out of your seat and repeat this four times a day for 21 consecutive days:
I give myself permission to think great thoughts, do great deeds & succeed.
I give myself permission to dismiss negative thoughts, things & people.
I give myself permission to move closer to my goals & dreams.
I believe in you & your ability to live on purpose with passion. GO for it!
Irma Givens is an empowerment expert, who offers programs, products & events for women & girls to lead and succeed. Irma is a public speaker & life coach. Contact her office to schedule her for your next event. Email: [email protected] or write: Irma Givens, 26300 Ford Road #304, Dearborn Heights, MI 48127.
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overall and looks like work.” – Thomas Edison