She might say, "my husband had an affair about two months ago. At first, I would not even speak to him.
When you pretend that you don't care, you're just playing the same games that your husband is playing and he might respond by shutting down.
Wives sometimes tell me that their husband truly is never going to care because he has checked out of the marriage. I find that even in those cases, there is still regret.
More married women are cheating on their husbands because adultery is encouraged by society. It's odd, but people do not "see" that society is one big temptation for both wives and husbands.
While there are many possible reasons why any man would cheat, I submit to you that there is one primary reason that may surprise you ...
An emotional affair may not be about sex, but it is certainly an extramarital affair and those involved are definitely looking for something that most times ends up in heartbreak.
How do you submit yourself sexually and basically give him what he wants when he's constantly betraying you? If he says I don't want to use protection and you refuse to give him what he wants because of the constant disappointments, is that your fault?
In my candid opinion, when a Christian is not sure on this or any subject, he or she should choose to take the high-ground of principle over preference. Your choice should not supersede the word of God. This is a wise and safe approach.
The pandemic of adultery in marriage today is all about the cheater they are mislead into believing that they can defraud and disrespect another person's physical space while at the same time trespassing against the marriage bed. Reality dictates that this will happen again and again until your spouse gives up the need for approval and emotional ego boosting from others, which happens only when they get right with God.
Without thinking I say “Yes, no problem!” Within seconds of getting in my car, this woman was offering herself to me sexually; her demeanor totally changed. She touched my arm and my flesh cried out: “Glory!” I have not felt the touch of a woman in so long. My flesh continued speaking by saying ...
Most people who do cheat on their spouse and use others emotionally and sexually do it to "feel" better about who they are. There's usually no "real love" involved in the relationship because it's only based on what one can gain from it. They use others to create a facade of happiness, but it is a false sense of happiness. Happiness comes from within the contentment of a person and not from what they can get from others.
How to survive the affair is a question that has no standard answer; couples need to find their own paths to re-instill the love and trust back into the relationship. More and more couples are choosing to heal and rebuild their marriage rather than file for divorce. The process of rebuilding a solid marriage foundation after an affair can be a positive experience if both you and your husband are committed to making it work!
